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Stress, Emotional Well-Being and Coping: Stress Management Techniques That Ground You

By Luke Alley, PT, DPT ยท

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Stress is a sign that something matters. The goal is not to eliminate it, but to give your nervous system regular chances to reset.

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Why Stress Stacks Up

Grounding routines, supportive surroundings and consistent daily rhythms help stop stress from piling up. When those anchors are missing, even small challenges can feel overwhelming. Calm is built through steady grounding, not by pushing harder.

The Most Stressful Life Events

In 1967, psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe ranked 43 life events by how much adjustment each one demands (Holmes and Rahe, Journal of Psychosomatic Research). The top ten on their Social Readjustment Rating Scale:

  1. Death of a spouse
  2. Divorce
  3. Marital separation
  4. A jail term
  5. Death of a close family member
  6. Personal injury or illness
  7. Marriage
  8. Being fired from work
  9. Marital reconciliation
  10. Retirement

Marriage and retirement make the list too. Any big change, good or bad, uses up energy. When one hits, protect the basics first: regular sleep, some movement and meals at normal times. Those are the parts still in your control.

Stress Management Techniques to Try

  • A short walk outside between meetings
  • Five to ten minutes of quiet or slow breathing each morning
  • A clear end to the workday, like closing the laptop and changing clothes
  • Writing down tomorrow's top three tasks before bed
  • Regular movement, which lowers stress over time
  • Time with people who make you feel like yourself

Healthy vs Unhealthy Ways to Cope With Stress

Unhealthy coping sticks because it works in the moment. The cost shows up later: worse sleep, less energy and more stress the next day. The way out is rarely willpower. It is swapping in something that does the same job, like switching off after work, without the next-day cost.

Healthy Ways to Cope

  1. Moving your body, even a 10-minute walk
  2. Going to bed and getting up at the same times
  3. Talking to someone you trust
  4. Writing down what is on your mind
  5. A few minutes of slow breathing
  6. Breaking a big problem into one next step
  7. Time outdoors
  8. Asking for help or handing off a task

Unhealthy Ways to Cope

  1. Drinking to switch off
  2. Scrolling late into the night
  3. Skipping meals, then overeating later
  4. Leaning on caffeine to get through the afternoon
  5. Pulling away from friends and family
  6. Putting off the thing you are worried about
  7. Working longer hours to feel in control
  8. Smoking or vaping to take the edge off

When to Get More Support

Coaching can help you build routines that lower day-to-day stress. It does not diagnose or treat anxiety, depression or other conditions. If low mood, anxiety or exhaustion has lasted two weeks or more, or feels severe, talk to your doctor or a licensed therapist.

If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US).